You’ve been through too much to stop now,
and it’s not too late to start over.
As an LGBTQ+ person, you may be thinking, “I’ve come through so much already, just to arrive at this point in life and have new challenges.” Moving through midlife into older adulthood brings with it retirement, relationship endings, bereavement, questions of identity and contribution. I am especially qualified to sit with people in these difficult situations and provide not only support but help identify what will be most fulfilling and helpful in moving forward. It would be my honor to work together to face these challenges.
My clients have been doing their absolute best to cope with stressful situations outside their control. Becoming a caregiver to a loved one. Coping with a new medical problem or disability. Feeling edged out of a job at a critical time in their career as they prepare for retirement. Many of my clients know what it feels like to be “different” due to their sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, or other personal characteristics. They have already been through a lot! And they’re tired. My work with them focuses on identifying what matters most, finding ways to think differently about their situation, and take steps to make things feel more balanced and refocus on what matters most that they can control.
I can help you with:
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​Constantly thinking about the past
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Overwhelming loss and grief
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Missing how things used to be
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Feeling useless
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Wishing you had the strength and hope you used to
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Finding ways to contribute and connect
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Loneliness
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Faith crisis and changes in spirituality
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Adjusting to caregiving for friends and family
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Coming out or transitioning in mid/late life
Shift from “what might have been” to find a new path for your proud heart.
In working with my clients, I partner with them as a sounding board, but not in a passive sense. I challenge when needed, and I see my role as a therapist not only as supportive, but as transformative. Taking the bitter from life, and working to transform it into learning, wisdom, new directions, and personal sovereignty.
My hope is that others who are fearful, confused, stagnant, grieving, or hopeless do not have to be alone in those feelings, while working their way through. As humans we have the capacity to engage in our lives in new ways, at any age. Dedicating time to therapy can be an important step in sorting things out. Life is complex and difficult at times – everyone can benefit from therapy at some point in their lives.
My approach is person-centered. Each of us is a unique blend of life experiences and social identities, some of which may be more privileged and some which may bring unique challenges, experiences with discrimination, or internal struggles. My goal is to listen and understand, as best I can, the world in which you live, the values and beliefs you hold, and tailor our work to meet you where you are, so we can move forward from that foundation. Therapy doesn’t make you a different person, it helps you become the best version of yourself, at this time. We’re all growing, and it is my honor to be part of your personal evolution.
For me, the ‘magic sauce’ of a therapeutic space is relationship. Relationship to oneself, to one’s values, to others in life, and the relationship forged in therapy. As a therapist, I offer listening, but also see it as my responsibility to ask questions, and help people find the best next path for themselves. I take an active approach in encouraging my clients to find actionable steps and put helpful skills to use in the service of reducing suffering and moving toward what is most important to them.
